Many years ago, long before I ever envisioned an “empty nest”, I was a patient at a fertility clinic. Or, an infertility clinic. Take your pick.
I had been trying for about a year to conceive a baby. I wanted to become a Mom. I really, really, really wanted a baby!!!!!!
I had tests. I read articles. I took vitamins. And I even entertained those crazy old wives’ tales about motherhood. For example, I was told, “If you just relax and don’t worry, you’ll get pregnant!” Oh, and, “If you eat a lot of broccoli, you’ll get pregnant!” and “Don’t say that you want a baby, or you won’t have one.” And then there was, “Eat ginger, and you’ll be a Mom.”
Take cough medicine, wait until a full moon, make love when you are drunk, make love when you are sober….On and on it went, making me feel frustrated and unworthy and inept. If only I knew the magic potion, I could become a Mommy at last!
It was all, of course, pure bullshit.
Biology is biology. The human body is designed to reproduce, and eventually it will do just that unless there is a medical reason why it can’t. In our case, there were some medical/scientific/biological interventions that lead to my first pregnancy and to the fulfillment of my maternal dreams.
It felt like a miracle to me, but in reality, there was NOTHING that I could have done emotionally or mentally or spiritually to have made that conception possible.
Just as there is NOTHING that any woman can do emotionally or mentally or spiritually to prevent a pregnancy.
The fact that a United States Congressman believes otherwise is a testament to the backward, illiterate, hocus-pocus, fundamentalist bullshit that is controlling at least a part of our government at this moment in our history. The fact that he is far, far from alone in his ignorance is a true reason for us to rise up and demand that we elect leaders who are literate in modern science.
Rape can cause pregnancy. Incest can cause pregnancy. Pure fact.
Global warming is real. Fact.
The dinosaurs lived a bit more than 5,000 years ago. Fact again.
If you are in the company of anyone who disputes any of these scientifically proven facts, it is up to you to make damn sure that they are never in a position to effect public policy.
This is really a disgusting moment in American History, don’t you agree?