Sometimes I think it is really important to ignore logic. Sometimes it is just absolutely necessary to let go of what makes sense and to embrace what makes our hearts sing.
I am a person who has spent way way way too much time doing what is expected and what seems like the “right” thing. I never check out a new library book until I have returned all of the old ones. I never, ever open a new box of cereal if the old one still had a few pieces of stale wheat flakes in it.
I don’t think of dessert unless I have eaten my vegetables and whole grains. I separate my whites and my darks when I do the laundry.
I have never once, as far as I can remember, ever done something that most people would call “foolish” or “crazy” or even “silly”.
But I am delighted to tell you that my daughter is a freer soul than I am. She is deeply in love, and about to be married. She and her honey have been planning a wedding that will be fun and happy and filled with laughs. They are SO not worried about having the napkins match the flowers.
They have been together for a little more than two years, and they have blended the families of her cat and his dog.
In the past few months, they have shopped for, found and purchased their first house. It’s an amazing, beautiful place, but it is O. L. D. It was built sometime before 1900, and it has been abandoned after foreclosure for more than three years. They moved in this week, and the place is full of boxes, bereft of furniture and definitely dirty. It needs tons of work! Our Sam will be able to fix it up and make it a gem, but right now, it is not exactly in prime shape.
A logical, predictable “good girl” would put off getting a puppy, no matter how much she and her fiance wanted a new little someone to love, to cement the “ours” in their new life together. A dependable “good girl” would push away her yearning, and her boyfriend’s pleas, and would be sure to paint the upstairs bedroom before getting a little doggie to add to the household.
And this is why I am delighted to announce that my daughter is NOT one of those “do what you’re told” women. She bought her big old house. She dumped all of her stuff inside, and she immediately listened to her heart.
Introducing the “as-yet-unnamed puppy” that has just entered my life. He is a rescue dog, a beautiful baby boy. He is loved and wanted by his mommy and daddy, and his “Puppy Nonni” can’t wait to meet him.
Here’s to the women who shrug off the rules and to the Mommas who raised them.