This post is for all of those lovely young women who are considering pregnancy/dreaming of pregnancy/in the middle of pregnancy.
You know those pesky gift giving days (Christmas, Mother’s Day, Mom’s Birthday….) when you just can’t figure out what to give your Mom? Those relentlessly repeating days when you are supposed to present your mom with a lovely gift, all tastefully wrapped and accompanied by a ridiculously drippy card all about love and flowers and dancing angels…..You know what I’m talking about! I know you do!
Well, here’s the secret that they don’t tell you in the “how to please your Momma” textbook.
Your Momma doesn’t actually need another #1 Mom coffee mug, or another pair of Ultra Comfy Slipper Socks. Or a gift certificate to the local grocery store.
Nope. She doesn’t.
If you really want to make your Momma happy, and fill her heart with love and gratitude and joy and hot chicken soup, this is what you should do. I promise you, this is a fail-safe, guaranteed Make-your-Momma-happy plan.
Here’s what you do:
You go into labor, and you insist that your Mom be in the room with you. You labor for hours with your Mom in the room. You let her sit back and watch as your husband, her “you’re not my real kid” son-in-law strokes your forehead and whispers how much he loves you. You allow your Mom to rub your back when the pain hits, and you let her run down to the cafeteria when you crave a treat.
If you really want to give your Mom the ultimate gift, you let her stay up all night with you as you labor. You let her sleep in a chair so that she can watch over you as you sleep. You let her reassure you in the deepest part of the night, when you are Googling “Epidurals and Hard Labor”. You allow her to refill your ice and water cup. You let her share the “breathe” routine with your husband.
When its time for the doctor to come and check your progress, you reach for your Mom’s hand, and the two of you think together “please, please, please, please say 6 centimeters!” When the doctor looks up with a surprised grin, you let your Momma yell to your showering husband, “Honey, hurry up! It’s time to push!!!!”
You let your Momma stand there and watch you as you do the hardest work of your life. You let her cheer you on as you push and breathe and growl. You hold the hand of the man you love best in all the world, and you let your Momma watch you.
And when at last that beautiful baby is born, you let your Mom and her “You are really one of mine” son-in-law embrace and shed a few tears together. You let her watch as that young man cuts the cord and you allow her to watch that very first moment, when you snuggle your little one on her chest.
THAT my friends, is the ultimate, not to be beaten, never forgotten gift to a Momma. After this, you’ll never ever need to buy another coffee cup in your life.
Thank you, thank you, Katie and Sam!!!! I love you!