So here’s my question: how do you really know what is the “right thing”? How can you be sure?
Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where “the right thing” feels obvious to us. Help someone we love. Give to someone in need. Reach out to somebody who seems alone.
It seems so clear, doesn’t it?
But here’s the problem: we can never really know what other people are thinking. Even people we’ve known their entire lives. Even people we consider to be our closest, most trusted, most loved allies.
Even then, we can sometimes take an action that feels so clearly “good” to us, but which is met with anger, resentment and dismay.
What do we do then?
For me, having done something wrong out of a desire to do something right, I am at a complete loss. How do you apologize for what you felt, deeply and honestly, was a giving action? How do you get past the rage and resentment to explain what it was that you intended?
I don’t know.
What I do know, what I have come to believe, is that I have to trust my own intentions. I have to trust my knowledge about myself and about those around me.
Someone way smarter than me told me recently, “We can’t control how our messages are received. We can only control how they are sent.”
“Do the right thing.”
Sure. Sounds easy.
Only its actually the hardest thing there is.