He is only 18 months old, this youngest member of our family. He is barely tall enough to peek out the front window when a car goes by.
He was born with twisted feet, and needed a lot of support to get up and walking. He wears the boots and bar at night, after a full year of wearing them day and night for months after his scary mid-pandemic birth.
But he is strong. He climbs on every available surface, moving chairs across the room so he can turn on lights and ceiling fans. He jumps, he rides his little train, he hops on and off the couch.
He is sweetly unaware that he had a difficult start on his journey toward mobility.
He doesn’t talk yet, but he points and gestures and makes the most intensely purposeful funny faces. Everyone knows exactly what it is that he is saying, even without a real word being uttered.
My grandson. My youngest grandchild.
There were moments before his birth where I honestly asked myself, “How can I possibly love this third child as deeply and intensely as I love his older siblings?” It didn’t seem possible to me; it truly didn’t. I had fallen so deeply in love with his older sister, even before she was born. She was our first grandchild, and I was still reeling from the sadness of my emptied nest.
She came into our lives; I retired from teaching to become her daily nurturing caregiver and I was filled with purpose and joy and a depth of love that shocked me to my core.
When her brother was born less than two years later, I was once again swept up in love and excitement. This little guy was added to my daily life and nothing could have made me happier. I was the delighted Nonni of two perfect little charges.
I hoped and trusted that I’d love this third one just as much; but before I met him, I wasn’t sure that would be possible.
But you know what? Even as I thought those traitorous thoughts, I remembered how I’d wondered the very same thing as I carried my own third child within my body. As a fertility patient, a struggling momma wanna-be, I had been intensely invested in the gestations of my first two children. There had been medications, injections, high-tech interventions….but we’d finally had our first two children. A girl and a boy. What could be more perfect?
So when at last I found myself pregnant with my deeply wanted but easily conceived third child, I wondered if I’d be able to love him with the same depth of emotion that I’d felt for his siblings. Without that sense of desperation, would he mean as much to me?
Then he was born. Easily, happily, more gently born that my older two, this one came to us with a smile and a sense of humor.
I adore all three of my kids, but my third was far easier to love than I’d feared.
He was my boy. My baby. My funny, silly, goofy, gentle loving son.
So when our little Max, our third grandchild, was born, I reminded myself to think of my own third child. I reminded myself that love has a way of working into our hearts when we can’t fully predict it.
And of course, of course, I was right.
Tonight we hosted a dinner for our kids. Our third child, our funny young Tim, came for dinner with his brand-new wife, a woman we’ve loved for years. I pulled my boy into my arms and was filled with the awareness of just how much I still love this wonderful kind young man. He was still my easy boy, my gift, my son.
I stepped back, and let him go to hug his Dad.
And my legs were suddenly encircled by two little arms. I looked down toward my knees. And grinning up at me, with eyes full of love, was our little Max. His dimples echoed those of his Uncle. His grin was just as delightful and just as full of joy.
I looked into his eyes, much darker than his Uncle’s, but matching those of his Mom and Dad. I reached down and lifted him into my arms. He leaned his cheek against mine, chuckled, and murmured, “yeah, ah, yeah.”
And I had to ask myself: why on earth would I have ever questioned just how much love I’d have for any little one who comes into my life?
I don’t know.
All I know is this: I may be foolish, but I am far beyond blessed.
5 thoughts on “Loving A Grandchild”
so beautiful this gave me chills – filled with love
Keep hugging them as much as you can!🤗♥️
So beautiful to read about. Love for a child is the most precious, magical experience ever.
Beautiful said. Cherish them and that love will return double.
So beautiful! Grandchildren are the best…and we always have enough love for one more!